This is a little off topic from Personal Training, but follow me on this …

Hey did you read that book THE GAME by Neil Strauss that came out a couple of years ago?

I happen to LOVE that book, and if you haven’t read it yet it’ll probably be one of the most entertaining books you EVER read. Even the ladies love it, even though it’s all about the tricks and tactics about how to crawl into their pants!

The only problem with the book is that a lot of people make a huge mistake after they’ve finished it – they think the book endorses becoming a PICK-UP artist which it doesn’t.

What Neil points out through the book is these PUA’s are actually big-time geeks and losers. To get interest from girls you need to have an identity and have a social life – that’s the real key.

And to have a real social life, you need to actually get out in front of people and create a LIFESTYLE!

The point of the book is that having a boring office job, or sitting in your basement playing WARCRAFT is not going to help you achieve your social goals. You’re going to need to pursue your passions and enjoy them with other like-minded people.

He explains that all the women he hooked up with in the book is because he got rid of his old, ant-social, fear-based identity, and adopted a new identity and lifestyle.

That’s good advice isn’t it? It really has nothing to do with pick-up techniques at all!

I’ve actually met A LOT of these pick-up guys while partying in NYC. They love the MEAT PACKING DISTRICT, and you can also find them all the time at the W Hotel on 14th and the one in Times Square.

Most of them are nice guys – some of them you have to beat off of your girl with a stick!

I’ve actually become friends with a couple of the instructors from REAL SOCIAL DYNAMICS, who if you read the book, were the evil bad guys.

What they told me is that they don’t teach any pick-up techniques anymore – that what they tell guys to do instead is to get in touch with their passions and create an appealing lifestyle – and to be more social of course.

I guess that’s what I do on my blog too, for both guys and gals, so we have a lot in common!

I even met the man himself, MYSTERY at the HOTEL GANESVORT last year.

That guy is surreal – it really is like meeting a LIVING VAMPIRE like they say in the book!

He was swamped with ladies, but I got to talk to him for a little while along with a few of his boys – in general what you’ll find is these guys are pretty nerdy. If you’re a trainer that’s living the FITNESS LIFESTYLE, you’re not missing out on much.

I even saw one Mystery’s instructors again just a few days later at HOME, which is a pretty gangster weeknight club in the west 20’s. Despite the shootings this place still manages to stay open and I still keep going back.

This guy was trying to do magic tricks and stuff to get interest from people. Needless to say that after a while, he just ended up sitting in the corner by himself.

It was pretty sad – so what’s the moral?

Be thankful you’re in training and fitness as a career and lifestyle!

If you do it right, it should free you from the traps that leave a lot of people stuck unhappy and without any social skills. Get to know other trainers, get in great shape yourself, pursue what makes you happy, and give value to your community through fitness and just your overall positive energy.

Maybe someone should write a book on that – you know what, I think I’ll make a course about it! Stay tuned for that …

Until then use this “game” of Personal Training for all it’s worth – this is way more than a job – it’s the door to an entire lifestyle!


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